2 Ways Overthinking Hurts Your Love Life
Relax and stop overthinking so you can be the most authentic you.
Overthinking is exhausting. Analyzing details, conversations, do they like me, do they not? We spend so much time overthinking that we forget why we even started liking this person in the first place.
I am the worst overthinker, over-analyzer. If I run through scenarios, I feel like I can prepare myself for everything and lessen the chance of being hurt.
What’s funny is no matter how much I think, It doesn’t stop me from diving headfirst into something I feel is right. So what’s the point? I don’t know. I am getting much better at just seeing what happens and staying true to who I am.
In dating and even in liking someone, we have to be somewhat fearless. If they don’t like me, it’s ok, and the world will not end. This is not easy for people who have been severely hurt in prior relationships.
The hard part of overthinking is when we are highly selective and rarely find ourselves attracted to someone and everything they are. Once we find that person that makes the world stop spinning for a moment, someone that makes stars shine brighter than they ever have, we want to question our every decision. Hello… this is me.
It’s natural. We want to make sure we look perfect for them, act perfect, say the right things, smell good. All of those things are good, and we should want to do those things for someone we’re interested in. It’s part of the fun. We’re not perfect, though.
We have to ensure we don’t lose ourselves and our authenticity when finding someone we’re interested in.
What do I mean by losing ourselves? That’s part of the two ways overthinking love and relationships hurts us. We tend to lose ourselves and who we are because of overthinking.
One minute we are spraying on some Tom Ford cologne, and the next, we’re trying to guess what someone meant by something they said or did or didn’t do.
What does overthinking look like?
- Re-reading texts and coming up with different meanings [Read: Being left on read or seen: What it really means when they don’t…
