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How To Respond To Breakups
If someone breaks up with you, you need to understand the best response internally and externally.
Most of us have had someone break up with us, leave us, not love us anymore. Even people that have dealt with unrequited love.
Both men and women can typically have internal and external emotional trauma at this time and may act and say all sorts of things. “You’re the love of my life, please don’t leave me,” “I’ll never live without you.”, “I don’t understand why? What did I do?”, Etc.
Your initial response should always be Ok.
That’s it. Ok. You need to know your worth. Know your value. Protect your energy and not share it anymore. More on this later.
I’m not saying that you will not be dying inside or entirely broken. You will need to take the proper time to process those feelings. These feelings are normal. The person breaking up with you who no longer values you and no longer wants you in their life does not need to know or see these emotions. They are no longer worthy of your vulnerability.
A man who has control of his emotions is attractive. I’ve seen and heard many men who struggle with this. They have a low sense of self-worth. Begging someone to stay or reconsider is demeaning to yourself and your value. Sometimes the breakup isn’t even…
